Forgive yourself: Make a list of things that you must forgive yourself for. It is written, ‘Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus who walk not after the flesh but after the Spirit Rom 8:1
Forgive people who hurt you:
Step 1: Make a list of people you MUST forgive;
Step 2: Forgiveness must be from the heart. Revisit the incident and state how it hurt made you to feel at that moment, e.g. I felt embarrassed, humiliated, rejected, disappointed, disbelieved, deceived, horrible, cheated, unworthy, terrified, etc. Use the attached Forgiveness Prayer below and release each of them in the spirit.
As the Word says, And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive your sins.’- Mark 11:25;
Step 3: Forgive people who repeatedly hurt you. Jesus said we must forgive seventy times seven- Matt 18:21-35;
Step 4: State the reason you forgive them. It is written: ‘Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.’- Colossians 3:13-14; Luke 11:4. Example: ‘I choose to forgive you (mention name) for you did not or do not know what you are doing.’- Luke 23:34
Step 5: Forgive and let go, as the Word says, ‘For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His love for those who fear Him; As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.’- Ps 103:11-12. Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.’- Isaiah 43:18-19
Step 6: Receive the peace of Christ: ‘Lord, I am called to peace. Please fill my heart with Your peace. As it is written, ‘Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace.’- Colossians 3:15
It is written, ‘whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him and let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your Father Who is in heaven may also forgive you your [own]failings and shortcomings and let them drop. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your failings and shortcomings.’ Mark 11:25-26(State your name/ Person’s name), you hurt me when you (state specifically what hurt you, when,and where). What you did made me to feel so (express all your emotions from the list below). In spite of this, today I choose to completely forgive you in obedience to God’s word. I release you from your failings and shortcomings and let them drop in the name of Jesus Christ.
The Hurt/Pain made me feel so …
It made me feel like…
Adopted from Fisherman’s Village OTC Workbook with some changes